What are the Kids doing Today

[BeezeeBee]

Congrats to your kids, Obbie

Hang in there, Jamberie!

[Bedlam]

I am sure it will happen soon, girls are usually quicker.  It was very difficult with our liitle fc ,he has contact  twice a week at different grandparents and the 2 days daycare. Everyone with different ideas and pushing him. He has just "got" it this week, well number ones anyway and he is 31/2. Luckily i have mainly bamboo floors!

[judydawn]

It is hard for the child when they are here, there and everywhere Denise - much easier if the training is coming from one person. I spoke with one Grandmother in a playground who refused to help with training on her babysitting day, not my job she said.  Guess we are all different.

[Bedlam]

Yes Judy it was. Especially as i didnt want to start and other ignored me. I then had to stop everyone give him a break and start a fresh when i new he was ready. Hard lifevfor innocent souls all the time.

[tarasis]

Driving me mad

Including argument with DS8 that he should be doing an hour of school work today, instead of half an hour as need needs to make up for not doing it yesterday (yes we are on summer holidays but he is struggling, to the point of being kept back a year)

I should add, school work usually devolves into a fight. Just had another as he refused to colour in some blocks in a coloring pencil rather than pencil. I apparently didn't understand, that's how it was supposed to be done and so on. I then pointed out the text at the bottom of the page that said exactly what I said. *sigh*

He basically hates me, feels I treat him unfairly, I'm too harsh and so on and I'm fed up with his attitude, lack of trying & listening.

[BeezeeBee]

Tarasis, I feel for you. My boys are constantly driving me bonkers; either one acts up or all 3 in one go!

[obbie]

Kids have days like that Rob..

home today for the weekend

[Bedlam]

Rob, boys are known to mature a little later. Try and take a few beathes and a step back. It is so hard to do but looking back (ds24,dd22andd19 now) there were so many pressures and worries yet they have all got there in the end.
To stay down at 8 may not be the end of the world ,sometimes as bad as we think things are at the time in hindsight they were helpful.
I can remembervthe frustration but its not worth harming a relationship.
Saying this both DS at home and believe me the dramas just get bigger and louder in our house.

[BeezeeBee]

Tarasis, he definitely does not hate you. Not when you cook such brilliant food

Kids need boundaries. I'm sure you are the best judge of his character but even if you "soften" a little, do not let him get away with murder. We are their parents, not their friends. Not when they are little anyway. I've seen my bratty cousin turn out to be a useless adult, with a warped idea of how the world owes him a living.

[obbie]

BZB lots of kids like that.

Mine should come home soon, they are up the road for a sleep over.

[obbie]

Rob, boys are like that. My DS just turned 8, and he has his days, and not wanting to go to school.

[jo_nz]

Rob, our Mr6 is a bit of a toad and hates us to tell him what to do.  He has always always tried to put his own spin on even the simplest instruction.  Ask him to take a toy to his room and he'll go and get out a (clean!) towel and lay it on the floor and drag the toy down the hall on it, or some other random thing.  I tell myself he'll make a great, independent, innovative adult....if I don't kill him before he lives that long. 
Honestly it's like talking to a brick wall to explain why something might actually NEED to be done in a certain way.

DS is back at school this week, and DD is at kindy today, so I am home alone!!  Ah, the peace and quiet!  I am doing paperwork from home today, so it's not all fun and games, but certainly fewer interruptions. 

[obbie]

My DS is here sick now.

I took him to school, but got him at 10am..

[Debbiebillg]

Sick kids for me today. DS6 has really been sick since yesterday with gastro, DS8 conned me with saying he's got tummy ache and reckoned that he was getting it too !! Hmmmmmm

8 year old boys are very frustrating !! Mine never wants to listen, he's doing ok at school but it's a battle to get him to do his homework Tarasis. My latest little trick is emailing his teacher. He has a healthy fear of getting in trouble with his teacher. She's strict but fair (just what he needs lol). Soooo if he won't do his homework I go to my computer and start typing an email to his teacher that goes something like this ........ Dear Mrs XXXX, J has had plenty of opportunity to do his homework this week and has chosen not to do it. Please send him to support fort (where they go in their lunchtime  if they don't do their homework) and whatever else you deem necessary to punish him.

He stands over my shoulder as I type and he moves his little butt soooooo fast it's hilarious ! 

He also doesn't like to listen to us so this last week I've been saying to him ............ Ok so you think you're old enough to not listen. So you think you're like an adult already ! Ok, so you can do your own washing, meals (without cooking so he would be very limited what he could eat), clean up after yourself ! He loves his food so the thought of eating  say fruit and cereals isn't too appealing lol and for the time being it's working !! Nothing works for long with him though lol !!

Good luck ! It's hard finding just the thing that works with them !

[judydawn]

Life sounds challenging in your house Deb and I love the way you deal with your DS.  You must run out of ideas at times though LOL