I hate ...

[Cuilidh]

I work in a shop and I hate it when I am serving someone and their phone rings (especially if we are trying to find a solution to a difficult problem).  Suddenly, I simply don't exist any more as they answer their phone.  I am then subjected to a totally inane one sided conversation - it is incredibly rude and drives me nuts.  I usually turn my back, return to my desk and get on with work then, when they have finished, they get to wait for me to return to them.  Catty of me, I know, but I can't help it.

[johnro]

Marina our local newsagent has the following sign at the counter - "because we respect your privacy, we will not serve you while you are on the phone" , love it!!!!   

[Cuilidh]

I like that one.  Good to see that I am not the only one who gets annoyed by this.  What happened to good old-fashioned manners?

Actually, there's another one that winds me up.  If I hold a door open for someone to walk through after me and this is not acknowledged, I often say ".. that's OK, please don't thank me".  I get some interesting reactions!

[judydawn]

Our local post office is more blunt Robyn - their sign says they will not serve anyone speaking on a mobile phone.
Marina, I cannot believe people would not thank you - I have never come across that before.  As you can imagine, we get the door held open for us with the wheelchair many times and I often reciprocate - I have never not been thanked.  Loved your response, those people certainly need a lesson in manners.

[Cuilidh]

I think the rudeness has probably got something to do with living in a largish city - people are always in a rush and simply don't bother to acknowledge such things as someone holding a door open for them.  I hate to sound old-fashioned, but I just don't think good manners are taught or emphasised enough these days, yet they are so important for us all to co-exist reasonably pleasantly.

[Halex]

Marina, I always hold doors open, & I hate it too when yiu dont get a thank you.

I say " oh thanks for opening the door" i get weird looks too.

Also when your driving & you ket someone in, they dont ackowledge you.

Also mobie phones tooo

Icould go on

I dont like bad manners, ds has impeccable manners, opens doors, holds them open, offers to carry shopping bags etc.

H

[fundj&e]

good manners start at home

frank still thanks me every night for dinner

[Halex]

So right Uni.

Yes dh & ds thank me every night for dinner too.

H

[Cuilidh]

Hally, it's wonderful to hear that your DS has great manners at his age.  I used to get it in the neck when I was young if I didn't hold doors open, give up my seat on train/tram/bus, say please and thank you, etc. (in fact, I still say thank you to tram and bus drivers when I get off!)  It does no one any harm and is always appreciated.

I also agree about letting cars in, etc.  I was recently driving along a very busy road near us and I let two or three cars in ahead of me at a couple of intersections and the guy in the car behind me was getting really irritated with me then, when he eventually had the opportunity to pass me, he sat on the horn until he got ahead of me!!  Yet, the funny thing is, I am sure he would have wanted to have been one of the cars that I gave way to if it was him who was trying to turn onto the busy road.

[judydawn]

It is such a pleasure to see youngsters with good manners, well done Hally - your little man prince is going to make a very good husband one day.

My DH thanks me every night when I put him to bed for what I've done throughout the day for him.  When his Mum lived with us she did the same before she waddled off to bed each night.  You do these things out of love but it is nice to know you are appreciated.

[gertbysea]

Judy Judy. Soap box puleeez.  Lets start with table manners eh? Ever sat in a restaurant and had a look around at families eating together where the children have good manners?  Maybe one or two tables  only. People chewing with their mouths open is one of my favourites. Elbows on table while shovelling food into  already full mouths is another.  It is particularly distressing to see a group of young women eating together with no manners at all and their phones on the table like a decoration.  Heaven help their children.

Interesting subject.

Gert

[cookie1]

I agree with all the above. We say that there is no respect anywhere anymore. DD gets furious when she is coming home on a crowded train and she has been on her feet all day and there are children sitting beside their parents taking up a seat. She has started asking the child if they would mind moving closer to the parent so she can have a seat. She said the teenage boys put their bags on the seat so she now asks them to move it. When she was younger she was always put on my knee so others could sit down and she still gives up her seat to those older than her as I do.
Re the door opening I always make sure I say thank you loudly no matter if I am holding the door or walking through it. People will just let it slam in your face at times.
RESPECT says it all.

Off the soap box.

[fundj&e]

don't get me started with table  manners

[Cuilidh]

I'm not being at all racist in this comment, as we lived in Hong Kong for years and I find the Chinese people to be really nice, but you should see them when they eat at a street restaurant, they make an incredible mess ... Uni, you'd be going nuts!

[CreamPuff63]

I hate...how rude people can be when they make a complaint about something. Just because they are the customer they think they are always right, and can speak their minds in what ever rude manner they like yet expect to get respect in return! Also they expect refunds for "inconvenience" regardless of whether there was any experienced. Quite often they talk about being compensated before they actually advise what the problem is. I've had it up the here with these miserable people the last couple of months, and they just seem to be getting worse each year. A large majority of people must be habitual whingers in order to receive discounts off everything.