it was very difficult and i hate secrets...someone elses secret doesnt bother me as i tend ot just forget about it but when its a surprise type secret and im talkig to that person regularly arrrrrggghhhhh as well as I coudnt say anything on FB or on this forum etc incase she found out...I was very relieved when it was all out in the open...that sort of thing can give you ulcers..we didnt even tell the kids until the day before...incase they slipped up!