ADHD children

[Halex]

Anyone got any tips on keeping them in the bed at night & going to sleep.

Also very rough with toys.

Poor ds is upset as he is rough with his x box & wii.

Dh outside with dfb, ds & I together.

I think ds might also be feeling thspat dfb is getting a lot of attention.

Early bath for me

H

[goldfish]

Hi Hally . . .it's a lot to take on, especially for short periods at a time as the child doesn't necessarily get the continuity and consistency that he needs.

Sleep:  do they sleep in the same room?  I'd suggest having them sleep in separate rooms if possible.  I think that maybe your visitor is highly anxious and finds it hard to settle at night.  How old is he?  Maybe read to him a bit and talk to him while he's in bed and tell him that he really needs to relax and get to sleep.  Would he respond more to you or to your DH in a situation like this?  You might have to keep reinforcing this as you would a toddler . . .

Toys:  Remove any  toys that your DS particularly values. Pack the ex box away for the time being. You can just say that we put those particular items away from time to time.  They'll come out at another time but not now.  Constantly demonstrate/reinforce handling things gently whatever it is that has . . .  . ."if you constantly treat that roughly it will become damaged, unsightly, broken, etc etc.  If we handle it gently and carefully, it will last a lot longer and be a pleasure to use . . . etc."

DS upset:  that's understandable!. Maybe bring up it up with DS and reassure him that you can understand that he may feel like that. Do you think that your son would understand if you explained that your visitor has a problem with a lot of things in his life and that he  feels anxious and confused most of the time -  and just while he is in your house he may need reassurance, and constant reminding of the "house rules", etc., and that he will surely benefit from understanding and patience from all the family.  It's amazing how children will rise to the occasion when they have an understanding of what's going on.

Hally, I don't know if this helps in any way.  I certainly admire what you're doing with these children.  Good luck!  An early bath sounds wonderful!

[cookie1]

Hally ADHD can be a real handful. You are indeed wonderful for doing this but do think of DS. (which I am sure you are doing). He coped with eb really well so that shows that he is a loving, caring child. Imagine how you would feel if some stranger came and 'bullied' your TMX.
The early bath is a great idea.

[Halex]

Thanks goldfish & cookie

Our bedroom is dfb out f bounds zone. So if ds wants timeout, ds can come & watch tv, play my ipad, read r whtever in our bedroom.

We told dfb the rules, he did not like it, says unfair etc. but does know.

Great dea about the toys, thanks

Ds has a friend who has adhd, this friend sends a lot of time here, his adhd is mild compared to dfb, his is really bad. The medication seems to wear off about 3pm.

They were in the same room last night, but ds mved in with us, & he can do so tonight.

Early days at, he responds to me better, I am much stricter than dh. He has already started calling dh DAD, bless him.

He is a lovely boy, just very hard work.

Ds knows dfb as an " illness" & he cant help what he does.

I mst admit fri-sun with this kid atm is our limit.

Told ds that anything dfb breaks mum will replace & we have learnt that next time we put away.

The problem I have is he has about 1 min attention span, then moves on, does come back to projetcs a min at a time.


H

[courton]

Did his foster mum give you any clues about how to influence his behaviour?

[Halex]

No, but I will be asking her

H

[Cornish Cream]

Your doing a great job H.

[Frozzie]

Oh h adhd children are a handful for their families so i can only imagine what a shock it is for you ad ds...i dont hink there is much that you can do but be consistent and firm but really tey need continued love support and understaning of their condition.. Its not easy as everyone just sees thm as naughty and destructive etc but they are so impulsive and need consistency hich i imagine is impossible in foster care... I wouldnt be putting ds or your family in a difficult situation though.. Its great to be caring but sometimes there isnt much you can do... Stay strong.

Is he on meds or not at all? A pecial diet?? Often they dont leep very much and need to be occupied

Anyway hope you sort it all out..

[Halex]

He is a lovey boy full of hugs & i love yous which he gets back from us.

Ritalinf 20 per day, but i think he needs a top up at 2-3, but I am not hs Dr.

This morning we did have fun doing the door hangers & he was really focused.

His foid today
Weetbic, harvey frsh milk
1 cafe suzed cookie, 1 free range chicken breast sNdwich with hime ade bread
2 mni quiches
1 very small slice if cake, yes I knowbut he heled make it
Lots f water

He is in the shower now with dh supervising, singing away etc.

H

[dede]

Is it slow release Ritalin ?

[cookie1]

He seems to be eating well Hally. Sometimes Ritalin can reduce the appetite. I really admire you.

[Halex]

No idea it just says 20mg.

Well tonight is fantastic, so far dfb in bed & so far  has stayed there for 30 mins. Told dfb he needs to e up early for auskick, so early to bed, he seemed ok with this.  Ds in our room.

H

[dede]

My son is on 54 mg concerta slow release medication, but he is almost 15.
I found the dexamphetamine really suppressed his appetite.

[dede]

Probably would be slow release if he is only taking 1 a day. How old is he?
Maybe he needs a slightly higher dose. But like you said your not a doctor. I'm sure they will increase his dosage as he needs it. That's what my doctor has always done.
Glad to hear he is settled tonight so far.

[Halex]

Dede he is 7.

He is in bed, & we think he is  asleep or nearly there, dont want to check onhim yet, just in case we disturb him.

He s a lot better tonight aft we talked to him. Bless his heart its nt his fault.
H