How do you find the time?

[natmum]

Thanks for all the honesty, thoughts and advice, I know don't feel so bad about going to our appointment tomorrow and feel encouraged by all your different stories. But most of all I have decided I don't care what other people now have to say, as long as DS is happy and the doctors feel this is what he needs I will try it, holding my head high because I am so proud oh him and happy at the joy he has brought to my life!
In the holidays I started a blog called crazy life with 2 kids... my main aim was to be honest about the highs and lows of parenting as sometimes we all think we are the only one!!
I will keep you informed!

[thermie crew]

Good for you natmum  . The experiences of others are great for encouraging what you though to be right in the first place. Good luck

[Nik2WIN]

I'm really glad this thread has been of use, and pleased that Natmum now feels more confident.

Good luck for tomorrow, we'll all be thinking of you

Nik

[Chelsea (Thermie Groupie)]

I hope tomorrow goes well Natmum.  I will be thinking of you.

At the end of the day we all just have to do what we think is best for our children.  I have coped some flack over the years since we picked up our son from Ethiopia for some of my rather unconventional parenting methods.  It truly is water off a ducks back though.

One day when our son was almost four he asked to hear his adoption story and on that day for the first time he fully understood what it meant to be adopted.  We had always talked about it, but on that day he really understood it.  He was completely distraught and begged me to tell him that he had grown in my tummy.  From that day on I could see his world slowly falling apart.  He struggled to eat and sleep and his behaviour became quite aggressive and unpredictable (very unusual for our son).  My family thought I was a little crazy when just before his fourth birthday I started carrying him in a sling, singing to him gently, giving him bedtime bottles of warm milk and rubbing his back until he feel asleep each night.  I knew it was what he needed though to bring him back to me and make him feel connected again.  Within 3 weeks he was almost back to his normal self and my family were marvelling at the change.  He still has enormous issues and trauma to deal with in the future but he and I are bonded as mother and son once again and able to deal with things together.

Listen to your heart and don't be scared to give something a go (even if your family don't agree or approve).  You are the Mum and the one person who will fight for your child above all others.

[judydawn]

This thread just tugs at my heartstrings, I've been sitting here just gazing at the screen and thinking how wonderful it is that all you lovely young mothers are sharing your stories and hopes for your children.  I wish each and every one of you the joy of receiving the love back from those children - it will be worth the struggles you have had/ are having/will continue to have.   

[Nik2WIN]

This thread just tugs at my heartstrings, I've been sitting here just gazing at the screen and thinking how wonderful it is that all you lovely young mothers

I'm neither lovely nor young JD.   

I'm nearly 43 and much as I love my children I'm pretty sure they could recount some Mumzilla stories (as they should be able to)

I can say that the love comes back to you 10 fold and very, very quickly.  I'm still amazed that my 9yr old still thinks I'm perfect!  That will change very soon. 

Nik

[Frozzie]

love the openess and honesty of this thread....keeps things real and not so fake..society can create a whole lot of unwanted pressures unfortunately causing us to be embarrassed if we dont live up to the perfect wife, mum and friend (by the way thats impossible!! lol)..such is life but dealing with difficulties in my opinion makes us stronger and a better person for it..like other mums have said just follow your hearts and 'gut' feelings no matter what others say, whether that be family, friends or other...mothers are generally the closest to their children and spend the most time with them and generally know whats best ...everyone always has an opinion especially with difficult children and most of the tipme these people have NO idea...follow your hearts people and give yourselves a break xo

[cookie1]

I've just read through this and it has brought tears to my eyes. Hang in there lovely Mums and has been said go with your gut feelings. They are rarely wrong.

[natmum]

The appointment went well Lisa was lovely. She has said he has huge anxiety problems...not sure where this has come from (both sides have mental illness/anxiety in them) We are going to do weekly session and see where things go. So this is probably the answer behind not being able to sleep or concentrate at school. Will keep you posted.

PS Chelsea..I love what you did..I belive honesty with kids is the best cause they are more hurt when they find out you lied!!! I hope he feels so much more comfort from you now too!! Did bring tears to my eyes too...as where they came from is a really big deal!!!

Nik 43 is not old!!!! I was the youngest at my mothers group being 31 thought that was strange!!
Mentally some days I feel 120 LOL